Single Parent and Dating

Single Parent and Dating

Are you a Single Parent and Dating again or are you considering dating as a single parent?  Do you wander how long to wait after the divorce?  Do you want to know what to tell your kids and when?  Should you only date people who also have kids and are single parents?  How will the kids respond, what will they say, what will they feel and think?  What about intimacy, how does that work with kids?  What about living together?

These and other topics are addressed in this short but powerful, straight to the point book called, “Single Parent And Dating: an Adventures in Single Parents Book”This short book is one of several books in the “Adventures in Single Parenting” series that includes such titles as “Teens, Alcohol and Drugs”,   “Teens and Sex”, “Teens and Driving”, And of course, the main book, “Adventures in Single Parenting” and its companion journal.  All of these books are available at

To celebrate the release of the new book, “Single Parent and Dating” I am offering a free copy of the PDF file for anyone who wants one.  Simply go to my website” and fill out the form on the right with your name and e mail address and I will send you a complimentary copy.

If you wish to purchase either a Kindle copy or a paperback copy of “Single Parent  and Dating” simply click on the link and it will take you to the book page of my website. Here you may purchase any book in the series.As usual, my wish for you is that your children grow up happy,  healthy and are positive contributors to society. Until we talk again, this is Len.



Single Parent Dating

Hello my friends, this is Len Mooney, author of “Adventures in Single Parenting” and creator of the website, Welcome to this video.

Once again I’m on the deck of my house in Mexico, actually to be exact for those of you who know, I’m one kilometer north of Puerto Nuevo. I can look over there, and I can see the restaurants from Puerto Nuevo. You can see the ocean behind me. There’s a fishing boat out there probably fishing for lobster for Puerto Nuevo. That’s what they do.

Today’s topic is dating, single parent dating. Wow, that’s a tough one. So you’ve been single for a while, maybe a long while. You’ve been raising your kids. You’ve got things pretty well stabilized. The house is running the way you want it to for the most part. The kids are behaving. They’re doing well in school. Y Tou’ve got your finances in order, and you’re sitting down going, “Ah, I sort of miss having the opposite sex around. What do I want to do about that?”

So you’re afraid. You’re actually afraid to go out there and start dating again. You don’t know what to expect, and you’re concerned about your kids. You don’t want to just get online and hook up with some . . . let’s just say some unpleasant person who is going to cause you trouble. How do you go about it? Well the first thing is in today’s day and age the Internet really can help you. It can be your friend, but you’ve got to be really careful. I would highly recommend that you do start with the Internet, but you only start with very, very reputable sites that do a very good job of screening who the people are that are members of the site. comes to mind. comes to mind, and there are several others I don’t mean to pick on those two, but there are lots of really good sites.  And so you can get a pretty decent idea of what someone is like before you ever jump out there and meet them in person. The other thing to do is to be very honest about what you’re looking for. If you want somebody who sails, put that out there. Tell them you want somebody who sails. If you want somebody who is 50, put it out there. What do you want? So you have a better chance of finding somebody whose interests match yours if you’re very honest about what you’re looking for.

I did meet a really good lady on one time. We hit it off, and we had a very pleasant time. So it was a very good experience. Now, the big problem that I find is the kids. After all, we’re single parents because we’re single and we have kids. And if we’re going to date other single parents, there’s a very good chance they’re going to have kids. And the problem that I find is it didn’t matter. My kids and her kids didn’t get along. There was always, at least, one kid in the group that didn’t get along with the other kid. “Mommy, Joey is a brat. Dad, Shelly’s out. She’s out.”

So some of the problems that we ran into, that I ran into dating, really circled around the kids and their feelings. So there are several things that I would say to you. One is if you’re going to date, talk to your kids about it first. Tell them that you want to date. Tell them why. Crazaberamer . And the first thing you’re going to get back is, “Mommy, why don’t you just date Daddy?” Once again, they’re always trying to get you back together with your spouse or “Dad, can’t you just go date mom?”

I got that a lot. So you’ve got to talk to your kids and explain to them, “Hey, no, I don’t want to date your mom. It’s just not going to work out. And I do want to date and I am going to be going out again, but I’m only going to pick nice people. I promise you that anybody that you meet you’re going to like.” And like I said before though, the big challenge that I found is the kids. T”he Brady Bunch works very well on television. It never worked very well for me in real life. So that was the biggest challenge I had was trying to figure out how to get all the kids to get along with each other.

Well, that’s all for today. If you find this video interesting, share it with a friend, click like and go visit my website. There’s more information out there and other blog posts about dating. This is Len, my wish for you is that your children grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. We’ll talk again. Bye for now.


Single Parent Dating

Greetings, my friends. This is Len Mooney, author of Adventures in Single Parenting, and creator of the web site,  Welcome to this video.Today I’m filming with Kirkwood Meadows Ski Resort in the background.
This is my last day at Kirkwood for a short while. I’m leaving to go down to San Diego for a month, month and a half or so. I wanted to tell you another one of my short stories about things that happened when the kids were growing up.
This is a story about single parent dating.So my kids were in grade school, and I was at work, and I met a woman that I really liked, very pretty lady. I really enjoyed her. She had a nice personality, great person. And I found out that she had a son whose age was about the same as my son. . And I decided that maybe we ought to all get to meet each other and so I invited her to go out to dinner with the kids.

 First date, with the kids. There you go. That was pretty brave, I think.

 But, you know what? If you’re going to take the kids out to dinner on a first date, one of the best places to go, in my opinion, is a pizza place, a place where they have games for kids and you can bring a roll of quarters, and the kids can play, and you and your new friend can talk and get to know each other, and so that’s what we did. We went to the pizza place,

 we ordered up some pizza, we ordered up a couple glasses of wine. I was having a beer. And we were all enjoying life together when my daughter, unsolicited mind you, I didn’t put her up to this, walks up to my new friend, remember now, this is a first date, and she says, “Are you going to sleep with my daddy tonight?”

 I was beyond myself with embarrassment. And all I can tell you is the honest truth, I didn’t put her up to it. My new friend looked at my daughter and simply said, “No.” That was the end of that conversation. It was also the end of any dreams I may have had for an alternate ending to the evening. But it was clearly one of the most embarrassing moments in my life.

 Now it turned out that this lady and I went on to become extremely good friends, and ultimately, she became my wife. But, that was our first date. I’ll let you ponder that. Single parent dating is not always easy, especially if the kids tag along.

 Other good ideas for dating as a single parent with kids is the zoo, the beach and a picnic in a park.

 Meanwhile, if you haven’t done so, go visit my web site, Pick up a copy of the book, Adventures in Single Parenting. I think you’ll enjoy it.

 This is Len. As usual, my wish for you is that your kids grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. I’m here to help you get there. We’ll talk again, bye for now.


Sex and the single parent-dating again

Looking for intimacy? 

So you are feeling the need for some more intimate adult companionship than your circle of friends and you want to start dating again.


The first, and very important step, is to talk to your kids about your desire to date. The kids will probably see your new date as a threat to the still existent notion that somehow the relation between you and your former spouse will be mended. No matter what the problems were and how severe, your children may still harbor a notion that you and your former spouse will reunite.

They might ask questions like, “Why can’t you just date (insert dad or mom)?  Be prepared to be honest without being negative.  Support the other person with statements like, “You know your dad (or mom) is a good person, he and I just don’t get along

The children want to see themselves and their parents as a normal family unit.  They don’t like the idea of weekend visits and exchanging holidays.

 The children need reassured you will still be there for them

They also feel the loss of the non-custodial parent and depending on where your children are in their own development cycle, they might see your dating and your new friend as a threat to their own relation with you. They may even feel threatened to the point that they believe if you continue on with your new relationship that they will lose you and be left with no parents at all.


So once again, the message is communicate your intentions.  Your kids have a right to know whether you’re building casual friendships or whether you really hope to get married again (or for the first time). Be honest with their questions and don’t be afraid to say, “I’m not ready to answer that at this time.” Look, your kids are your family. Crazaberamer . Of course, you can’t predict the future, but you can clue them in to your intentions.

So what’s next?

 Alright so you have gone on a date now what?  Go slow.  The potential to get hurt again is huge and the risk of hurting the kids is also there.  Don’t bring a new friend into your home until you really know them well and are confident that the relation has some stability.  Your new friend will probably try hard to impress the kids which means they will become attached. But of course that means they are vulnerable to being hurt again if you and your new friend break up. So once again, proceed with caution.

Finding someone to date

It’s hard enough when you are single and not a parent to find someone to date.  It is really very difficult when you have all the other responsibilities of single parenting.  I personally have had some luck with on line dating services.  Stay with the more reputable ones.  Of course, any time you are meeting someone “on line” you run some risk so proceed with caution.

Meet up groups

 Personally I also like the myriad of clubs and activities that are available.  I prefer outdoors stuff so I belong to a water ski club, sailing club and snow ski club.  There are many good clubs to join that provide a social outlet and an opportunity to meet new friends.  Whatever your interest is, there is probably a meet up nea by that caters to it.  If not, start your own.  Starting a meetup is easy


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