Single Parent and Dating

Single Parent and Dating

Are you a Single Parent and Dating again or are you considering dating as a single parent?  Do you wander how long to wait after the divorce?  Do you want to know what to tell your kids and when?  Should you only date people who also have kids and are single parents?  How will the kids respond, what will they say, what will they feel and think?  What about intimacy, how does that work with kids?  What about living together?

These and other topics are addressed in this short but powerful, straight to the point book called, “Single Parent And Dating: an Adventures in Single Parents Book”This short book is one of several books in the “Adventures in Single Parenting” series that includes such titles as “Teens, Alcohol and Drugs”,   “Teens and Sex”, “Teens and Driving”, And of course, the main book, “Adventures in Single Parenting” and its companion journal.  All of these books are available at http://singleparenting.us/products-page/.

To celebrate the release of the new book, “Single Parent and Dating” I am offering a free copy of the PDF file for anyone who wants one.  Simply go to my website http://singleparenting.us” and fill out the form on the right with your name and e mail address and I will send you a complimentary copy.

If you wish to purchase either a Kindle copy or a paperback copy of “Single Parent  and Dating” simply click on the link and it will take you to the book page of my website. Here you may purchase any book in the series.As usual, my wish for you is that your children grow up happy,  healthy and are positive contributors to society. Until we talk again, this is Len.

 

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Successful Single Parenting

Successful Single Parenting

Single parenting is one of the most common end results of a failed marriage. For many people, it might seem simple, perhaps even a relief to start a new life and raise their kids after an ended marriage.  After all, the marriage ended because it was stressful, probably negative, argumentative and perhaps even violent.

However, for some new single parents, it is difficult to achieve a balance.  There are many different factors that come into play, not the least of which is different personalities, upbringing and ways of managing stress brought by the failure of the marriage.

Frequently new single parents are frightened and stressed and have concerns about their own adequacy, feel lonely, abandoned, and overwhelmed. Financial issues may also wreck havoc on the newly single parent. We all want the same thing, what is best for our children.  But, and it is a big but, it is hard to focus on the needs of the kids if we as parents are scared, overwhelmed or depressed.

If you think that separation and the thought of being a single parent hinders your ability to move on, it’s now time to consider ways that can help you overcome your fears and will pave the way for successful single parenting.

Focusing on the basics

The desire to be a good parent is instinctive to all parents. However, this innate concern for their kids and raising them well may be affected by the events that have occurred in their lives. Their experiences may hinder them to focus on the needs of their children since they cannot help themselves to overcome their problems in life.

Although painful experiences such as separation greatly affect good parenting, there are always ways to overcome these problems and move on.

Let Go Of The Past

The first thing that you can do is let the past go. Experts say that the first step to be an effective single parent is to deal with depression caused by separation. By learning to let go of the past, you can accept that there are things that are beyond your control. Once you have accepted this, you will be able to forgive yourself and prepare yourself to be a successful single parent. You cannot change the past, you can only live in the now and prepare for the future. Easier said than done sometimes, this piece may require counseling.

Pace Yourself

Next best thing to do is to try to set your own pace. Although it is sometimes good for others to have fast recovery to be able to forget their problems, this is not always healthy says experts because it is only a “band-aid” solution. Some people who face the reality of becoming single parents try hard to move on by drowning themselves in work. This may work in the beginning but is not conducive to achieving long term goals.  It is also not good for the kids if their only remaining parent is so absorbed in work as to have not time to rebuild the family relationships.
Eventually, the person who tries so hard to face the challenges of single parenting may burn out and become completely ineffective.

To be an effective single parent, it is best if you set your own pace so you won’t get tired. This will also be beneficial for you because you can rest whenever you want to since nobody is breathing down your neck to do things you are not ready to do.

And remember, the time you spend with your kids is more productive than the time you spend cleaning the house. Successful  Single parenting may require you to modify some of your standards in order to fit in those things that truly matter.

Plan Ahead

Lastly, the best way to be successful in single parenting is to always think one step ahead and be positive. Since you will raise the child on your own, it would be best to plan ahead so you will be able to accomplish goals ahead of time. By doing this, you will have more opportunities to do things properly, feel less stress and have more time to spend with your child (or children).

As usual, my wish for you is that your children grow up healthy, happy and are positive contributors to society.

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Single Parent Work From Home Ideas

This video discusses how single parents can achieve a work from home lifestyle such as the one I have been able to achieve.  It discusses some ideas for working from home such as blogging, internet marketing,and  network marketing and points the direction for further resources.  There are no “get rich quick schemes” but there are plenty of ways to supplement income working from home.

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Teens and Driving

Teens and Driving

 Today’s topic is teens and driving.. In the time it took me to say that, a teenager was injured in an automobile accident. In the next couple of hours, a teenager will die in the United States. Seven teenagers a day die in automobile crashes in the United States and another 770 approximately are injured.

Motor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death among 15 to 20-year-olds. Sixteen-year-olds have a higher crash rate than drivers of any other age. Conssymroycupo . Given the dangers of driving, is it any wonder that teens and driving creates more heartburn amongst more parents than any other topic?

 

A Real Danger for Teens Driving

 Think about it! Your child is in very real danger. Just like a two-year-old running on a busy freeway, your child is in real danger. And not just the danger of being hurt, injured, killed, but also the enormous financial risks involved. Cars aren’t cheap. Crazaberamer Gas is expensive. Insurance costs money. Liability is an issue. Your child goes off and hurts or kills somebody else, you’re facing lawsuits that may drag on for many, many years and really have a significant impact on your lifestyle.

So all of that is my way of saying, I’d like to introduce you to a new book. It’s called “Teens and Driving”. It’s an Adventures in Single Parenting book. It’s one of a series of short books in my Adventures in Single Parenting series and it’s available on Amazon. It’s available in Kindle format. It’s available from several other publishers, so you can get it in paperback, you can get it in Kindle, and it’s a very short book but it covers a lot of the statistics about teens and driving. It covers a lot of the issues concerning teens and driving.

 

Driving While Distracted

 Today we have to worry texting while driving. We have to worry about cell phone use, programming a navigation system, and all kinds of other distractions. The book offers an insight into the world of teens and driving and it also offers a fair amount of suggestions for you as a parent to enable you to make the relevant choices that you need to make in order to ensure, or at least to help, promote the safety in driving and help ensure that your child won’t become one of those awful, ugly, black statistics that are so prevalent out there in the world of teens and driving today.

So once again, “Teens and Driving, an Adventures in Single Parenting book”. You can go to my website http://singleparenting.us, click on products, and it will take you to a page that gives you all of the books available in the series. My wish for you is that your children grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. I’m here to help you get there. This is Len, we’ll talk again. Bye for now.

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Single Parents Working From Home ideas

Today I am in Cozumel Scuba Diving

 Hello my friends. This is Len Mooney, author of “Adventures in Single Parenting” and creator of the website “http://SingleParenting.us“. I want to welcome you to this video. Today, I’m coming to you from sunny Cozumel. We’re looking at the Caribbean Sea behind us, got some cruise ships out there. We’ve been here for a week scuba diving every day. Today, we’re going on a tour of the island.

 Hello from the Deep Blue Sea

Here I am again, waving to you from underneath the water around Cozumel. I thought I’d give you a look at what it’s like to be scuba diving out there. I’ve lived my life with travel and adventure. I like to scuba dive, snow ski, water ski, hike, backpack, camp, sail. I taught my kids to do almost all those things when they were growing up. They went snow skiing with me and water skiing. Crazaberamer They went camping and backpacking, hiking. We did a lot of things. I did a lot of things with the kids. I was a stay-at-home dad; I worked from home.

 Lifestyle and Financial Stress

I know many of you are stressed financially, and that’s why I want to talk to you about lifestyle. With the internet today, there’s a plethora of ways that you can earn additional money working from home, and I’d like to help you get there. You can have the lifestyle that you dream of. There are ways to do it, whether it’s backpacking, camping, scuba diving, sailing, water skiing, snow skiing, or whether it’s just staying at home being with the kids, being there for their parent-teacher conferences, being there for their doctors’ appointments, being there when they’re sick, being there when they’re healthy, being there when they need you, being there when they don’t, and just enjoying the life that you want to enjoy on your terms. You can do it.

 What is the Solution?

What I’d like you to do is check out a couple of things. On my single parenting website, http://SingleParenting.us, there’s a link that says Work from Home; it’s a video. It’s about 30-minutes long, and it goes through a number of different things that you can do to earn additional money from home. Conssymroycupo . It’s totally free of charge; you’re not going to get a bill. I’d like you to go watch it if any of this is of interest to you. The other place you can go is to my marketing website, http://LenMooney.com. There’s a link there that says Work with Len. You can click on that to learn more about other business opportunities that you might be interested in which you can join with me, partner with me, work with me, and earn additional money working from home.

 No Get Rich Quick Schemes

Once again, no matter what lifestyle you want to achieve, the internet provides a way for you to do it. There are no get-rich-quick schemes, but we can learn working together how to earn additional income for you.

This is Len. As usual, my wish for you is that your children grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. We’ll talk again. Click on the links below. Go check out the opportunities. Looking is free. Bye for now.

http://singleparenting.us/extramoney/

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Teenage Suicide

Hello my friends. This is Len Mooney, author of Adventures in Single Parenting and creator of the web site SingleParenting.us and welcome to this video. Today I want to talk about a topic that’s very tragic and very important and that is suicide amongst teenagers or teenage suicide.  It may shock you to know that approximately once every two hours in the United States, a person between the ages of 15 and 24 accomplishes the ultimate act of killing themselves.
5000 Teenage Suicides per Year in the US alone

Approximately 5,000… and I’m going to say teenagers even though technically, of course, a 24 year old is not a teenager, but 15 to 24 year olds, approximately 5,000 kill themselves every year in the United States alone and there’s a lot more around the world. So there are approximately 5000 cases of teenage suicide each year in the United States alone. Now this is an incredible number and we as parents need to really be aware of what goes on.

Some Signs To Look For

Teenagers are especially vulnerable, they’re in a very difficult period of their time and they’re emotionally unstable. They’re brain isn’t completely developed yet. They haven’t developed all the life-coping skills that they’re going to need and hopefully have later on in life. It can be easy for them to reach the conclusion, especially with peer pressure, bullying, sextortion, and all the other things that can go on, it could be easy for them to reach the conclusion that they’re life isn’t worth living and they want to do something about it. Unfortunately, as I said, about 5,000 of them manage to do something about it every year.

Well first off, let’s start with what are some of the signs that a teenager may be contemplating suicide? Well, irritability obviously, depression, drug and alcohol use, any other mental disorders, bipolar, for example, making comments about not wanting to be around or not going to be around much longer, giving away possessions, stopping doing things that they normally like to do. Usually, teenagers will hint, they’ll let you know that something is going on and lots of times, and I’m going to admit that I was a little guilty of this at one point, lots of times we tend to think when they say something like, “Awe, I’m just going to go kill myself.” we think that they’re trying to just get attention and we brush it off.

Yes, They Need Attention

Well yes, they are trying to get attention. They’re sending a message and it is a deep message and an important message and the message is, “Not only am I trying to get attention, I really desperately need attention because I’m not feeling good about myself. I need help.” Well this is the time to step up to the plate rather than brush it off, to take it very seriously, to wrap your arms around that kid and say, “Honey, what’s bothering you? Let’s talk.” If necessary, intervene. Now, I’ve given you a couple links right below this video and in the written blog.

There’s one link to a Huffington Post article and another link to a list of signs and symptoms of suicide and suicide prevention and plus a phone number, a National Suicide Prevention hotline, that you could jump on the phone and call if you have a teen or know of a teen who you think might be contemplating suicide or might be in trouble. Suicide is a preventable thing and what it requires is for us to really take it seriously if we have a teenager who seems to be stressed.

By the way, divorce causes stress in all kids and especially teens . The suicide rate is elevated in divorced households especially amongst males. So this is something to be taken very seriously and my wish for you is, as always, is that your children grow up happy and healthy and are positive contributors to society and take a look at them, keep them safe. This is Len. sherrirhodesrte88.blogspot.com . That’s all for today. Bye for now.

Finding Help

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_teen.htm

 Children with divorced parents are at an increased risk of suicidal thoughts, with boys especially vulnerable to the effects of marital breakups according to the Huffington Post article listed below

 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/01/24/divorce-and-suicidal-idea_n_812456.html

 Teen Suicide Awareness: Statistics

How real is the problem of youth suicide? Here are the numbers:

  • EVERY YEAR there are approximately 10 youth suicides      for every 100,000 youth.
  • EVERY DAY there are approximately 11 youth suicides.
  • EVERY 2 HOURS AND 11 MINUTES a person under the age of      25 completes suicide

How pervasive is the problem of youth suicide? Here’s a brief review of what national data tell us:

  • Suicide is the third leading cause of death for teens.
  • Suicide is second leading cause of death in colleges.
  • For every suicide completion, there are between 50 and      200 attempts.
  • CDC Youth Risk Survey: 8.5% of students in grades 9-12      reported a suicide attempt in the past year.
  • 25% of high-school students report suicide ideation.
  • The suicide attempt rate is increasing for youths ages      10-14.
  • Suicide had the same risk and protective factors as      other problem behaviors, such as drugs, violence, and risky sexual      activities.
  • While a single suicide is a tragedy, it is estimated      that for every adolescent who completes suicide, there are between 50 and      200 suicide attempts.
  • A recent survey of high-school students found that      almost 1 in 5 had seriously considered suicide; more than 1 in 6 had made      plans to attempt suicide; and more than 1 in 12 had made a suicide attempt      in the past year.

More Suicide Prevention and Awareness Resources

a psychological disorder, especially depression, bipolar disorder, and alcohol and drug use (in fact, approximately 95% of people who die by suicide have a psychological disorder at the time of death)

feelings of distress, irritability, or agitation

feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness that often accompany depression

a previous suicide attempt

a family history of depression or suicide

emotional, physical, or sexual abuse

lack of a support network, poor relationships with parents or peers, and feelings of social isolation

dealing with bisexuality or homosexuality in an unsupportive family or community or hostile school environment

talk about suicide or death in general

give hints that they might not be around anymore

talk about feeling hopeless or feeling guilty

pull away from friends or family

write songs, poems, or letters about death, separation, and loss

start giving away treasured possessions to siblings or friends

lose the desire to take part in favorite things or activities

have trouble concentrating or thinking clearly

experience changes in eating or sleeping habits

engage in risk-taking behaviors

lose interest in school or sports

(800) SUICIDE

 

 

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Sexploitation or Sextortion and Teens

Hello my friends. This is Len Mooney, author of Adventures in Single Parenting and creator of the website singleparenting.us, and welcome to this video. Today I’m sitting in my RV. I’m in Campland by the Bay in San Diego, if any of you know where that is. And it’s a pretty nice day out there. The sun is out now, just finally came out. It’s been overcast most of the day. It’s warming up, and it’s just beautiful. We’re right on Mission Bay in San Diego.
Today I’d like to talk to you about a topic that just came to my attention recently, and it’s called sexploitation or sextortion and it affects teens. It’s affecting a lot of teens, many more than you might imagine in the country, and it’s something that you need to be aware of.

Information About Sexting 

 In a prior video, or blog post, I talked about sexting and the second edition of my book, “Adventures in Single Parenting”, is about to be published and it has a chapter on sexting in it. Plus, my short Teens and Sex book which is available on Kindle has a chapter on sexting. So there are several sources that you can go to from me to learn more about sexting if you don’t know what it is.  Sexting is the act of sending nude or explicit or compromising photos electronically usually using smart phones.

Sextortion May Start With a Male Friend

 Well there’s a whole new arena to this thing called sexting. In some cases, it comes from a boyfriend who convinces the girl to send him a nude or compromised picture of herself and then exploits her by telling her if she doesn’t send more pictures or perhaps engage in other activities with him that he will publish those pictures on Facebook, Pinterest, wherever. And of course, she doesn’t want to, pardon the pun, expose herself, so she sometimes complies with requests. And the request may also come from his friends to send more pictures.

 Predators are Stalking Kids

 But the more insidious one is coming from predators online who are able to track down people who send or text compromising photos of themselves and extort them, and in some cases extort them for pornography, for personal reasons, et cetera. In the text below this video and in the text on my website I’ve given you a couple links to go to, one to an examiner.com article that talks about this situation and another to a list of recent headlines that talks about sextortion or sexploitation. It’s a serious thing, and we really need to be aware of it as parents and make sure our kids don’t get into the middle of it. And of course, if our kids do inadvertently get into it, they’re, in many cases, embarrassed or ashamed or afraid to come tell us, so it gets worse and worse and worse for the kid, especially if it’s a professional online who’s tracking them down.

 Have a Cell Phone Contract

Now I’m a firm believer that every teenager who has a smart phone should also have a contract in place with their parents about what they are and are not allowed to do with that smart phone, and this is something that really needs to be discussed. And so I’ve also included a link to an example smart phone contract that you can have in place with your teenager and I highly recommend it.

Monitor Cell Phone Use

Well, just be aware that this exists. You are the parent. Monitor your teenager’s cell phone use. Take a look at their picture files. Take a look at their sent messages and their inbox and be sure there isn’t something going on here that you want to be involved in. And remind your teenagers that anything they do with their smart phone and put that message or a photo out to the world, that’s there forever. It’s not going to go away easily, and especially if it ends up on, say, Facebook, or some other social media.

Share this with Every Parent You Know

Well that’s all for today. If you like this video or consider it to be worthwhile, and I hope you do, share it with a friend. Go visit my website. The link is given to you. And I’ve also given you links below to my other video on sexting as well as to my books. I hope you find this information useful, and as usual my wish for you is that your children grow up to be happy, healthy, and productive members of society. We’ll talk again. This is Len. Bye for now.

Further Information

Examiner.com article

http://www.examiner.com/article/sextortion-alert-dangerous-teen-sexploitation

Latest headlines

http://www.examiner.com/topic/sextortion

Sample cell phone contract

http://tweenparenting.about.com/od/tweenculture/a/Parent-Child-Cell-Phone-Contracts.htm

Miss Teen USA  Sextortion Aug 2013

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/teen-usa-opens-sextortion-plot-gave-nightmares-article-1.1440884

 

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Single Parent Dating

Hello my friends, this is Len Mooney, author of “Adventures in Single Parenting” and creator of the website, SingleParenting.us. Welcome to this video.

Once again I’m on the deck of my house in Mexico, actually to be exact for those of you who know, I’m one kilometer north of Puerto Nuevo. I can look over there, and I can see the restaurants from Puerto Nuevo. You can see the ocean behind me. There’s a fishing boat out there probably fishing for lobster for Puerto Nuevo. That’s what they do.

Today’s topic is dating, single parent dating. Wow, that’s a tough one. So you’ve been single for a while, maybe a long while. You’ve been raising your kids. You’ve got things pretty well stabilized. The house is running the way you want it to for the most part. The kids are behaving. They’re doing well in school. Y Tou’ve got your finances in order, and you’re sitting down going, “Ah, I sort of miss having the opposite sex around. What do I want to do about that?”

So you’re afraid. You’re actually afraid to go out there and start dating again. You don’t know what to expect, and you’re concerned about your kids. You don’t want to just get online and hook up with some . . . let’s just say some unpleasant person who is going to cause you trouble. How do you go about it? Well the first thing is in today’s day and age the Internet really can help you. It can be your friend, but you’ve got to be really careful. I would highly recommend that you do start with the Internet, but you only start with very, very reputable sites that do a very good job of screening who the people are that are members of the site.

eHarmony.com comes to mind. Match.com comes to mind, and there are several others I don’t mean to pick on those two, but there are lots of really good sites.  And so you can get a pretty decent idea of what someone is like before you ever jump out there and meet them in person. The other thing to do is to be very honest about what you’re looking for. If you want somebody who sails, put that out there. Tell them you want somebody who sails. If you want somebody who is 50, put it out there. What do you want? So you have a better chance of finding somebody whose interests match yours if you’re very honest about what you’re looking for.

I did meet a really good lady on match.com one time. We hit it off, and we had a very pleasant time. So it was a very good experience. Now, the big problem that I find is the kids. After all, we’re single parents because we’re single and we have kids. And if we’re going to date other single parents, there’s a very good chance they’re going to have kids. And the problem that I find is it didn’t matter. My kids and her kids didn’t get along. There was always, at least, one kid in the group that didn’t get along with the other kid. “Mommy, Joey is a brat. Dad, Shelly’s out. She’s out.”

So some of the problems that we ran into, that I ran into dating, really circled around the kids and their feelings. So there are several things that I would say to you. One is if you’re going to date, talk to your kids about it first. Tell them that you want to date. Tell them why. Crazaberamer . And the first thing you’re going to get back is, “Mommy, why don’t you just date Daddy?” Once again, they’re always trying to get you back together with your spouse or “Dad, can’t you just go date mom?”

I got that a lot. So you’ve got to talk to your kids and explain to them, “Hey, no, I don’t want to date your mom. It’s just not going to work out. And I do want to date and I am going to be going out again, but I’m only going to pick nice people. I promise you that anybody that you meet you’re going to like.” And like I said before though, the big challenge that I found is the kids. T”he Brady Bunch works very well on television. It never worked very well for me in real life. So that was the biggest challenge I had was trying to figure out how to get all the kids to get along with each other.

Well, that’s all for today. If you find this video interesting, share it with a friend, click like and go visit my website. There’s more information out there and other blog posts about dating. This is Len, my wish for you is that your children grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. We’ll talk again. Bye for now.

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Single Parenting

 

Hello, my friends. This is Len Mooney; author of the book, ‘Adventures in Single Parenting’ and creator of the website, SingleParenting.us. Welcome to this video. I’m standing here on the deck of my house in Mexico, overlooking the Pacific Ocean. You can look out behind me and you see the ocean, you can see a little fishing boat out there. We’re down near Puerto Nuevo. If any of you want to know. The boats are typically fishing for fresh lobster at Puerto Nuevo.

The number of single-parent households in the United States continues to grow. Something I was reading on the internet today; there’s about 15 million, that’s 1/3 of all the children in the United States, 15 million children being raised by a single mother and another 5 million being raised by a single father. About 20 million children in the United States alone, being raised in a single household. Crazaberamer Those are staggering big numbers.

Single parenting is one of the most complex and difficult things that we can ever undertake in our life. Certainly parenting itself is a difficult task, but single parenting can be monumental. The other challenge for many single parents is the average income for a 2-parent family is in the neighborhood of $80,000. For single parents, single mothers, it’s $24,000. That’s a huge difference. Many families became single because they wanted to . . . because they got a divorce; for a few very unfortunate families, the death of a spouse has occurred and is a very tragic thing. For many single families, the fact that the marriage has broken up has made it easier for the single parent to make the decisions and not have the stress of a non-working marriage. sherrirhodesrte88.blogspot.com Nevertheless, the financial implications of being in a single-parent household are enormous.

Of course, most single parents have to work, but that means they have to frequently pay child care. Child care is very expensive, so a significant fraction of the working parent’s income goes for paying the child care required so the parent can go to work in the first place. That leaves a single parent in a very difficult financial position.

I talk a lot more about single parents working from home. You can get more information at my website, and that website is given below. The bottom line is that there’s a lot of us out there, and many of us are stressed financially and struggling. Meanwhile of course, we have kids that are whiny, fretful, sometimes angry, occasionally blaming us, feeling guilty that they contributed to the breakup of the marriage. All this makes single parenting a very, very tough challenge, indeed.

That’s all for today. My wish for you is that your children grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. This is Len. We’ll talk again, or go visit my website at http://singleparenting.us. Share this video if you like it. Bye for now.

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Single Parent Dating

Greetings, my friends. This is Len Mooney, author of Adventures in Single Parenting, and creator of the web site, http://singleparenting.us.  Welcome to this video.Today I’m filming with Kirkwood Meadows Ski Resort in the background.
This is my last day at Kirkwood for a short while. I’m leaving to go down to San Diego for a month, month and a half or so. I wanted to tell you another one of my short stories about things that happened when the kids were growing up.
This is a story about single parent dating.So my kids were in grade school, and I was at work, and I met a woman that I really liked, very pretty lady. I really enjoyed her. She had a nice personality, great person. And I found out that she had a son whose age was about the same as my son. sherrirhodesrte88.blogspot.com . And I decided that maybe we ought to all get to meet each other and so I invited her to go out to dinner with the kids.

 First date, with the kids. There you go. That was pretty brave, I think.

 But, you know what? If you’re going to take the kids out to dinner on a first date, one of the best places to go, in my opinion, is a pizza place, a place where they have games for kids and you can bring a roll of quarters, and the kids can play, and you and your new friend can talk and get to know each other, and so that’s what we did. We went to the pizza place,

 we ordered up some pizza, we ordered up a couple glasses of wine. I was having a beer. And we were all enjoying life together when my daughter, unsolicited mind you, I didn’t put her up to this, walks up to my new friend, remember now, this is a first date, and she says, “Are you going to sleep with my daddy tonight?”

 I was beyond myself with embarrassment. And all I can tell you is the honest truth, I didn’t put her up to it. My new friend looked at my daughter and simply said, “No.” That was the end of that conversation. It was also the end of any dreams I may have had for an alternate ending to the evening. But it was clearly one of the most embarrassing moments in my life.

 Now it turned out that this lady and I went on to become extremely good friends, and ultimately, she became my wife. But, that was our first date. I’ll let you ponder that. Single parent dating is not always easy, especially if the kids tag along.

 Other good ideas for dating as a single parent with kids is the zoo, the beach and a picnic in a park.

 Meanwhile, if you haven’t done so, go visit my web site, singleparenting.us. Pick up a copy of the book, Adventures in Single Parenting. I think you’ll enjoy it.

 This is Len. As usual, my wish for you is that your kids grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. I’m here to help you get there. We’ll talk again, bye for now.

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