Single Parent Dating

Hello my friends, this is Len Mooney, author of “Adventures in Single Parenting” and creator of the website, SingleParenting.us. Welcome to this video.

Once again I’m on the deck of my house in Mexico, actually to be exact for those of you who know, I’m one kilometer north of Puerto Nuevo. I can look over there, and I can see the restaurants from Puerto Nuevo. You can see the ocean behind me. There’s a fishing boat out there probably fishing for lobster for Puerto Nuevo. That’s what they do.

Today’s topic is dating, single parent dating. Wow, that’s a tough one. So you’ve been single for a while, maybe a long while. You’ve been raising your kids. You’ve got things pretty well stabilized. The house is running the way you want it to for the most part. The kids are behaving. They’re doing well in school. Y Tou’ve got your finances in order, and you’re sitting down going, “Ah, I sort of miss having the opposite sex around. What do I want to do about that?”

So you’re afraid. You’re actually afraid to go out there and start dating again. You don’t know what to expect, and you’re concerned about your kids. You don’t want to just get online and hook up with some . . . let’s just say some unpleasant person who is going to cause you trouble. How do you go about it? Well the first thing is in today’s day and age the Internet really can help you. It can be your friend, but you’ve got to be really careful. I would highly recommend that you do start with the Internet, but you only start with very, very reputable sites that do a very good job of screening who the people are that are members of the site.

eHarmony.com comes to mind. Match.com comes to mind, and there are several others I don’t mean to pick on those two, but there are lots of really good sites.  And so you can get a pretty decent idea of what someone is like before you ever jump out there and meet them in person. The other thing to do is to be very honest about what you’re looking for. If you want somebody who sails, put that out there. Tell them you want somebody who sails. If you want somebody who is 50, put it out there. What do you want? So you have a better chance of finding somebody whose interests match yours if you’re very honest about what you’re looking for.

I did meet a really good lady on match.com one time. We hit it off, and we had a very pleasant time. So it was a very good experience. Now, the big problem that I find is the kids. After all, we’re single parents because we’re single and we have kids. And if we’re going to date other single parents, there’s a very good chance they’re going to have kids. And the problem that I find is it didn’t matter. My kids and her kids didn’t get along. There was always, at least, one kid in the group that didn’t get along with the other kid. “Mommy, Joey is a brat. Dad, Shelly’s out. She’s out.”

So some of the problems that we ran into, that I ran into dating, really circled around the kids and their feelings. So there are several things that I would say to you. One is if you’re going to date, talk to your kids about it first. Tell them that you want to date. Tell them why. Crazaberamer . And the first thing you’re going to get back is, “Mommy, why don’t you just date Daddy?” Once again, they’re always trying to get you back together with your spouse or “Dad, can’t you just go date mom?”

I got that a lot. So you’ve got to talk to your kids and explain to them, “Hey, no, I don’t want to date your mom. It’s just not going to work out. And I do want to date and I am going to be going out again, but I’m only going to pick nice people. I promise you that anybody that you meet you’re going to like.” And like I said before though, the big challenge that I found is the kids. T”he Brady Bunch works very well on television. It never worked very well for me in real life. So that was the biggest challenge I had was trying to figure out how to get all the kids to get along with each other.

Well, that’s all for today. If you find this video interesting, share it with a friend, click like and go visit my website. There’s more information out there and other blog posts about dating. This is Len, my wish for you is that your children grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. We’ll talk again. Bye for now.

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Single Parenting

 

Hello, my friends. This is Len Mooney; author of the book, ‘Adventures in Single Parenting’ and creator of the website, SingleParenting.us. Welcome to this video. I’m standing here on the deck of my house in Mexico, overlooking the Pacific Ocean. You can look out behind me and you see the ocean, you can see a little fishing boat out there. We’re down near Puerto Nuevo. If any of you want to know. The boats are typically fishing for fresh lobster at Puerto Nuevo.

The number of single-parent households in the United States continues to grow. Something I was reading on the internet today; there’s about 15 million, that’s 1/3 of all the children in the United States, 15 million children being raised by a single mother and another 5 million being raised by a single father. About 20 million children in the United States alone, being raised in a single household. Crazaberamer Those are staggering big numbers.

Single parenting is one of the most complex and difficult things that we can ever undertake in our life. Certainly parenting itself is a difficult task, but single parenting can be monumental. The other challenge for many single parents is the average income for a 2-parent family is in the neighborhood of $80,000. For single parents, single mothers, it’s $24,000. That’s a huge difference. Many families became single because they wanted to . . . because they got a divorce; for a few very unfortunate families, the death of a spouse has occurred and is a very tragic thing. For many single families, the fact that the marriage has broken up has made it easier for the single parent to make the decisions and not have the stress of a non-working marriage. sherrirhodesrte88.blogspot.com Nevertheless, the financial implications of being in a single-parent household are enormous.

Of course, most single parents have to work, but that means they have to frequently pay child care. Child care is very expensive, so a significant fraction of the working parent’s income goes for paying the child care required so the parent can go to work in the first place. That leaves a single parent in a very difficult financial position.

I talk a lot more about single parents working from home. You can get more information at my website, and that website is given below. The bottom line is that there’s a lot of us out there, and many of us are stressed financially and struggling. Meanwhile of course, we have kids that are whiny, fretful, sometimes angry, occasionally blaming us, feeling guilty that they contributed to the breakup of the marriage. All this makes single parenting a very, very tough challenge, indeed.

That’s all for today. My wish for you is that your children grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. This is Len. We’ll talk again, or go visit my website at http://singleparenting.us. Share this video if you like it. Bye for now.

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Single Parent Dating

Greetings, my friends. This is Len Mooney, author of Adventures in Single Parenting, and creator of the web site, http://singleparenting.us.  Welcome to this video.Today I’m filming with Kirkwood Meadows Ski Resort in the background.
This is my last day at Kirkwood for a short while. I’m leaving to go down to San Diego for a month, month and a half or so. I wanted to tell you another one of my short stories about things that happened when the kids were growing up.
This is a story about single parent dating.So my kids were in grade school, and I was at work, and I met a woman that I really liked, very pretty lady. I really enjoyed her. She had a nice personality, great person. And I found out that she had a son whose age was about the same as my son. sherrirhodesrte88.blogspot.com . And I decided that maybe we ought to all get to meet each other and so I invited her to go out to dinner with the kids.

 First date, with the kids. There you go. That was pretty brave, I think.

 But, you know what? If you’re going to take the kids out to dinner on a first date, one of the best places to go, in my opinion, is a pizza place, a place where they have games for kids and you can bring a roll of quarters, and the kids can play, and you and your new friend can talk and get to know each other, and so that’s what we did. We went to the pizza place,

 we ordered up some pizza, we ordered up a couple glasses of wine. I was having a beer. And we were all enjoying life together when my daughter, unsolicited mind you, I didn’t put her up to this, walks up to my new friend, remember now, this is a first date, and she says, “Are you going to sleep with my daddy tonight?”

 I was beyond myself with embarrassment. And all I can tell you is the honest truth, I didn’t put her up to it. My new friend looked at my daughter and simply said, “No.” That was the end of that conversation. It was also the end of any dreams I may have had for an alternate ending to the evening. But it was clearly one of the most embarrassing moments in my life.

 Now it turned out that this lady and I went on to become extremely good friends, and ultimately, she became my wife. But, that was our first date. I’ll let you ponder that. Single parent dating is not always easy, especially if the kids tag along.

 Other good ideas for dating as a single parent with kids is the zoo, the beach and a picnic in a park.

 Meanwhile, if you haven’t done so, go visit my web site, singleparenting.us. Pick up a copy of the book, Adventures in Single Parenting. I think you’ll enjoy it.

 This is Len. As usual, my wish for you is that your kids grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. I’m here to help you get there. We’ll talk again, bye for now.

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Raising 15 Kittens!

Hello there. This is Len, author of “Adventures in Single Parenting” and
creator of the website, singleparenting.us, and welcome to this video.

This is another one of my short stories about things that happened with me
and the kids growing up, and this is another animal story. If you’ve heard
my earlier story about the dog and the cat, the cat that came to live with
us when the dog came, this is a different cat we’re going to talk about.
That first cat disappeared, and we think we know what happened to it, but
we won’t discuss that in this video.

So I arrived home from work one day, and there was a cat in the house. My
daughter was there, too. And I looked at her and I said, “What’s that?” And
she said, “Well, dad, it’s a cat. It just followed me home, dad.” She said,
“I didn’t touch it. I didn’t pet it. Crazaberamer I didn’t feed it. I didn’t do
anything. It just followed me home.” Yeah, right. Of course, it just
followed you home.

Well, it went and laid down in one of the rooms of the house and had seven
kittens. So now I have eight cats. Well, as these kittens grew up we began
to run ads in the paper for “Give-away free kitten to a good home,” and
people came to see the kittens. Now my daughter had her favorite kitten in
the litter. My son had his favorite kitten in the litter. And I got to tell
you, I had mine, too. So somehow when people came to look at the kittens,
they didn’t take one of the favorite kittens. They took the other ones. So
we did manage to get rid of four of those original kittens, but three of
them stayed behind. My favorite, my daughter’s favorite, my son’s favorite.
And they continued to nurse.

And as long as they were nursing, the veterinarians wouldn’t remanufacture
the mother so she couldn’t have more kittens so she got pregnant and had
seven more kittens. So now, we had a total of 11 cats. Well, when this
second litter of kittens were grown enough, we vigorously ran ads for “Give-
away to good home” and gave all seven of those kittens away and promptly on
the same day, at the same time, by the hands of the same surgeon, mama
kitty and all three of her kittens got remanufactured so that we couldn’t
have any more kittens in our house, and the three kittens from that litter
and the mama cat continued to live with us for many, many years. That’s my
cat story for today.

As usual, if you like this video, go ahead and click, like. Share it with a
friend. If you’re on YouTube, and if you haven’t, go visit my website,
singleparenting.us. Better yet, pick up a copy of the book, “Adventures in
Single Parenting”. I think you will enjoy it. It’s available on Kindle.
It’s also available on Amazon, and there are links to it from my website,
singleparenting.us. This is Len. As usual, my wish for you is that your
children grow up healthy, happy, and positive contributors to society.
We’ll talk again. Bye for now.

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A Bike Story

 

A Bike Story!

Hey, this is Len Mooney, author of “Adventures in Single Parenting” and creator of the website SingleParenting.us, and welcome to this video. This is another one of my stories about the kids growing up, and sharing some of the experiences.

Today I want to talk about my son. He had a bicycle. He, like all teenagers, young teenagers, he was doing brodies, and wheelies, and all kinds of tricks on his bicycle. Well, I’m standing out front one evening, marveling at some of the antics, some of the acrobatics, when he came tearing down the driveway, popped a wheelie, spun a brodie, and promptly went over the handlebars, falling flat on his face, laying in the middle of the street with the bike laying on top of him.

Now, I’d had plenty of experiences, so I tend to under-react to these sorts of things. I didn’t panic. sherrirhodesrte88.blogspot.com I realized that he was still moving, and he would stand up eventually, which he did. And he gathered up his bicycle, and he was sort of dragging him and his bike back to the garage, limping, blood running down his leg. Clearly not seriously injured.

So I did the fatherly thing. I looked at him and I said, “Gee, don’t you think that if you were being a little more careful, these things wouldn’t happen?”

And he looked at me indignantly and said, “Dad, I was being careful. I was in perfect control. There was absolutely nothing wrong. I just suddenly found myself flying over the handlebars; that’s all.”

Now, he dragged the bike into the garage, pulled the toolbox down, started wrenching on the bike. A few minutes later, took off down the driveway, popped a wheelie, did a brodie, and rode off into the sunset.

It’s always amazed me that kids don’t just lose their parts as they grow up, you know? They have so many things happen to them, you would think that, over a period of time, parts would just start falling off. And I guess we’re all very lucky that our kids manage to get through some of the things they do without hurting themselves more seriously than they manage to.

Well, this is Len. That’s all for today. As usual, my wish for you is that your children grow up happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society. We’ll talk again. Once again, this is Len. Bye for now.

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Single Parenting (Teaching Kids to Cook)

  • Teaching Kids to Cook!

    This is Len, author of “Adventures in Single Parenting”, and creator of the
    website, singleparenting.us, and welcome to this video. This is another short
    story about the kids living with me. I learned the hard way that teaching kids
    to cook takes time and patience but is well worth the investment.

    Once again,when they came to live  with me, they were in early grade school,
    and I had a job; a very busy job. I worked outside the home initially, and so
    I used to get home around dinner time, and I would feel very rushed.

    I would feel like I needed to just sort of crash around and get dinner on
    the table, and get the kids fed and take care of the chores, et cetera,
    whatever needed to be done. The consequence of that is that I didn’t do a
    very good job of teaching my daughter or my son – I don’t mean to be
    prejudiced here – teaching either of the children to cook in the early
    years. If they offered to help in the kitchen, I sort of thought that,
    “Well, I could get it done faster myself, and I really didn’t need any help
    right now. So why don’t you go off and do something else? Play with your
    friends. Do your homework. I’ll take care of the cooking.”

    The consequence of that is just that they didn’t learn how to cook
    really well, and so one day my daughter decided that she wanted to make a
    grilled cheese sandwich, and she did. She made an open-faced, grilled
    cheese sandwich, in the toaster with Velveeta cheese. Now, if you can
    imagine that, you can imagine what this toaster looked like. The toaster
    was no more. One of the other things that I noticed when the kids started
    to try to cook for themselves from time to time is that they always had
    this illusion that they needed to turn the stove to high. For some reason,
    they were always trying to cook things fast, so they were really infamous
    for making burnt scrambled eggs and burnt grilled cheese sandwiches (that
    weren’t open-faced in the toaster) just by keeping the stove too high.

    Some of the incidents were really hilarious, though. I do look back on
    that, and I wish to myself that I had just spent more time in the early
    years letting them help me in the kitchen so that they had a better idea of
    what to do.

    Well, if you’re on YouTube and you like this video, go ahead and click “Like”
    and click “Share”, and if you’re on Facebook click “Like”, click “Share”, and
    better yet, go visit my website, http://singleparenting.us/ and/or pick up a copy
    of the book, “Adventures in Single Parenting”. It’s available at Amazon and
    in Kindle and you’ll find links to it on my website.

    My wish for you is your children grow up healthy, happy, and
    are positive contributors to society. This is Len. We’ll talk again. Bye for now.

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    Single Parenting (Kids and Pets)

    Single Parenting (Kids and Pets)

     

    Hello, there. This is Len Mooney, author of “Adventures in Single Parenting” and creator of the website singleparenting.us, and welcome to this video. This is another one of my short videos about incidents that happened in my life, our life, as me and the children grew up together. I think I’ve told you in the past, the children came to live with me when they were in early grade school, and when they first moved in they started, “Dad, can we have a dog?”

    It turned out that, when I was a single parent, the neighbor across the street had a litter of puppies, and one of these puppies found its way home. It was a German Shepard/Labrador mix. It had all the markings of a Shepard and the temperament of lab, so it was a really, really great dog. It grew up to be a wonderful dog to have around the house.

    But somehow, somewhere along the line, around the time the puppy came home, a kitten came home too, and I honestly don’t quite remember how that happened. But a kitten came to live with us, so the dog and the cat grew up together, and for the most part, they got along extremely well. Now, I have to tell you one little incident that always stuck in my mind, and you have to sort of draw a picture in your mind now.

    You walked in the front door of my house and if you turned hard to the right, you went down a long, skinny hallway, where all the bedrooms and the bathrooms were, and etc. If you walked straight ahead, you walked into the living room, and if you did a left, 180 degree turn, you walked into the kitchen. If you kept walking through the kitchen, you ended up in the backyard.

    So, one day I’m sitting in the living room, and I hear this ruckus down the hallway at the very end of the hall. It’s obviously the dog and the cat playing. I’m not sure what’s going on. I’m just about to get up to investigate when suddenly down the hallway shoots this cat, running as fast as it can possibly go. It makes the turn into the kitchen, jumps on the kitchen table, races across the kitchen table, bounds off the table and out the backdoor.

    In hot pursuit comes 85 pounds of German Shepard, right across the kitchen table, after the cat. Now, can you imagine 85 pounds of German Shepard chasing a cat across your kitchen table? It was mind-boggling, and the dog of course would never have gotten on the kitchen table, ever. So this was clearly a mindless pursuit. In the emotion of the moment, he just chased that cat right out the backdoor.

    Now, I have no idea what the ruckus was all about, and sometime later the cat and the dog managed to return to the house, and they weren’t any worse for the wear, and fortunately the kitchen wasn’t any worse for the wear either. Well, I want to keep these short, so that’s all for today.

    This is Len, and if you like this video click “Like”. If you’re on YouTube, share it with a friend, and go ahead and visit my website, singleparenting.us. Better yet, pick up a copy of the book, “Adventures in Single Parenting”; I think you’ll enjoy it. It’s available on Amazon.com, and it’s also available at Kindle. As usual, my wish for you is that your children grow up healthy, happy, and are positive contributors to society. This is Len, we’ll talk again. Bye for now.

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    Single Parenting: Making Tapioca Pudding

    Hey, good morning. It’s Len Mooney, the author of “Adventures in
    Single Parenting” and creator of the website http://SingeParenting.us.  Welcome
    to this
    video.  Several people I know, friends of mine and others, have
    suggested I should start telling some stories about the kids growing up. So,

    I’m going to share some of my experiences and some of their stories.

    Here’s the first one I’d like to share with you. When my daughter
    was in early high school, she was taking a home economics class. So, well,
    she was learning to cook. So she came home one day, and she said, “Dad, I’d
    like to make tapioca pudding.” And I said, “Great. That sounds like a
    wonderful idea.”

    She said, “Well, where do I start?” I said, “Well, get the box of tapioca
    pudding out of the cupboard.”

    And so she did that. And she got it down, and she said, “Okay. Now what do I
    do?” I said, “Well, read the directions. Step 1. What does it say to do?”

    So she read Step 1, and told me what it said to do. And I said, “Okay,
    fine. Well, then do that.” And she said, “Okay.” And she did it. Then she
    said, “Okay. Now what do I do?”

    And I said, “Well, read Step 2 and do what it says.” And she looked at me
    indignantly, and angrily stomped her foot in pure frustration, and said, “Dad,
    I’m taking home economics. I’m not taking direction reading.”

    I just thought that was absolutely hilarious, and I shared her frustration.
    I understand sometimes reading directions is not fun. But nevertheless, I
    encouraged her to continue along the course of reading directions and
    assured her that that would go a long ways towards helping her become an
    absolutely marvelous cook in the future.

    That’s all for today. We’re going to keep these short. So, this is Len, and
    what I wish for you is that your children grow up and are happy and healthy
    contributors to society. I’m here to help you get there. We’ll talk again.
    Bye for now.

     

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    Auto Erotic Asphyxia

    Good morning, this is Len Mooney, author of “Adventures in Single
    Parenting”, and creator of the website, singleparenting.us. Today’s topic
    is
    an extraordinarily sad one. Three days before Christmas, I received a
    phone call no parent, no grandparent, no friend, no relative ever wants to
    receive. A very close and very young relative was dead. It was my grandson.
    He was a teenager. I put a post on my blog within a day or so, but it’s
    taken me a couple or three weeks to get to the point where I can talk about
    it just a little bit more. And I do want to talk about it because I want to
    warn you, if you have teen aged boys that this could happen.

    The cause of death is auto erotic asphyxia. It’s been around for several
    hundred years. It’s estimated between 500 and 1000 young men die every year
    as a result of this little experiment, and the reason the number is
    relatively unknown is because many deaths that are, in fact, caused by auto
    erotic asphyxia are attributed to suicide. It can appear to be suicide or
    the family may simply wish the truth not be known. Now the last time I had
    a personal visit with my grandson I had talked to him about sex, asked him
    if he had any questions. We went over some stuff. We talked freely and
    openly. It was a good conversation. It never occurred to me that I should
    discuss auto erotic asphyxia.

    Now for those of you who don’t know what it is, it’s a practice of cutting
    off the oxygen supply to the brain during erotic stimulation. And I’m not
    going to tell you in this video how to do that. If you really want to know
    the details of how it can be done, you can search for it on the Internet
    and you can read the article on my blog, on the written blog, and you’ll
    find more information about the techniques involved. I don’t want to be
    responsible for propagating techniques for how to do this, but what I want
    to be responsible for is warning parents who have teenaged sons that
    somehow they should get the information to their son that this practice can
    kill you.

    Once again, between 500 and 1000 young men die every year die in the United
    States, and unfortunately the Internet provides a medium where information
    about all kinds of things can be found and misinformation is rampant and
    relatively available, So, once again, my caution to you is to be aware that
    this exists, be aware that children surfing the Internet can find
    information about it and try to do the best you can, I suppose, to be sure
    that your son is armed with the information he needs to warn him that this
    is not a good idea. As usual, my wish for you as that your children grow up
    happy, healthy, and are positive contributors to society.

    This is Len. We’ll talk again on a happier note. server ip . Bye for now.

    For further information try the following sources
    Erotic asphyxiation – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_asphyxiation
    Autoerotic asphyxiation has at times been incorrectly diagnosed as murder and especially so when a partner is present. Some hospitals have teaching units …
    Auto-erotic asphyxiation | Go Ask Alice!
    http://goaskalice.columbia.edu › … › Sexual & Reproductive Health
    Auto-erotic asphyxiation (AEA) is the practice of cutting off the blood supply to the brain through self-applied suffocation methods while masturbating. By limiting …
    David Carradine: Auto-Erotic Asphyxia’s Deadly Thrill, a Secret Sex …
    Jun 5, 2009 – Actor David Carradine likely practiced the dangerous and secretive sex practice auto erotic asphyxia safely for a lifetime before accidentally …
    Autoerotic Asphyxiation information on MedicineNet.com
    http://www.medicinenet.com › … ›
    As many as 1000 people a year die accidentally as a result of autoerotic asphyxiation — suffocating themselves for sexual arousal.
    What’s the story on autoerotic asphyxiation? October 28, 1988. Dear Cecil: I heard about a strange sexual practice the other day that I hope you can tell me more …
    Autoerotic asphyxiation is killing hundreds of men each year: Details
    http://www.details.com/…/self-asphyxiation-is-taking-sex-to-a-scary-…
    Autoerotic asphyxiation is killing hundreds of men each year. … Autoerotic asphyxiation is taking sex to another level. And it’s killing hundreds of men every year …
    Is there a safe way to perform autoerotic asphyxiation? – Slate …
    http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and…/strangle_with_care.html
    Jun 5, 2009 – Kung Fu star David Carradine was found dead in a Bangkok hotel on Thursday. Police discovered him in a closet with cords tied around his …
    The Neurocritic: Celebrity Autoerotic Asphyxiation
    http://neurocritic.blogspot.com/…/celebrity-autoerotic-asphyxiation….
    Jun 7, 2009 – Of the various types of abnormal sexual behavior, the most dangerous and bizarre is autoerotic asphyxiation, also known as asphyxiophilia,
    Autoerotic Asphyxia – Medical Dictionary – The Free Dictionary
    http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Autoerotic+Asphyxia

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